Good men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, engage them on social media, enter same public transport with them and the halls at work.
Some of us can't see them because we don't know what a good man really looks like.
He usually isn't flashy enough to turn our heads. He might not wear that Amaechi or Akpabio kind of suit or cruise a Bentley. He might not have a "body like Vin Diesel with a Will Smith face".
But, as you grow older and start attending church singles seminar, you’d realize it's better to find someone who's got your back than someone who turns your head.
A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say.
He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He has his own opinions and you may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right.
He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.
A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect.
He needs to feel that you do not live to "catch" him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!"
A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him.
Don't judge him by TV standards. No one lives that fairy tale for real. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good.
Fadoju Babajide
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